I recently came across an article penned by Tracy McMillan on The Huffington Post entitled, "Why You're Not Married." It's a paint-by-numbers list of reasons that explains why women - who allegedly all want to be married - can't seem to find a husband. There is nothing particularly groundbreaking or insightful about her list. It's a standard of list of character flaws that drive men away.

She explains (in much further detail) that being selfish, a liar, a slut, a b*tch, shallow, or just plain not good enough are reasons that women can't find a husband. If you polled 1,000 men and women and asked them what characteristics were most likely to keep women single, I'd wager that all six would show up pretty frequently.

But one thing about her article jumped right out at me.

How? It basically comes down to this: I've been married three times. Yes, three. To a very nice MBA at 19; a very nice minister's son at 32 (and pregnant); and at 40, to a very nice liar and cheater who was just like my dad, if my dad had gone to Harvard instead of doing multiple stints in federal prison.

I was, for some reason, born knowing how to get married.

Holy rusted metal, Batman. She's been married THREE times? In today's day and age? How is that even possible?

Those are all questions I asked myself.

See, being apart of a world where relationship discussions run rampant, one of the most common issues it seems that many women have is finding a man to commit to them period. And I'm not talking marriage; I'm talking exclusivity. I can't tell you how many women I know who can't seem to find one man to be faithful to them. It's the current relationship rally cry, where are the men that want to get married?!

Well apparently they're marrying the same women. Taking turns of course. No Big Love. This woman got three different men to want to marry her and somehow that seems like an accomplishment even though the marriages didn't last. How jaded are we when that's the first thing that jumps out.

In my own life, I know multiple women, all under age 33, who have managed to be married more than once. All attractive but something about them just made the marriage material. I know plenty of great women who can't find a man to save their lives, and here I know other great women who are somehow being the kind of women that men just want to marry, even wtih kids, etc.

Hell, instead of writing an article about why these chicks aren't married, she'd do well to write an article about what makes her marriage material. I'm guessing it's not just NOT being any of those things on her list. Some women just possess wifely attributes that men pick up on. But here's the thing, I have no idea what a wifely attribute is. Sure being able to cook and maintain a household are great, but what about a certain woman's character makes a man willing to take that leap...

...numerous times with the same woman. I wish I could look at my friends who've been married multiple times and say I knew what it was but I don't. They're great women, thru and thru. But I know lots of great women.

The only thing I can come up with is this: some women were just born knowing how to get married, as Tracy McMillan says. Those women just are just the kind that men want to marry.

They have the mojo, the "thing".

Now, if somebody could just show them how to STAY married.