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A coworker takes credit for a project you led. How do you handle the situation?

Directly address your concerns with them face-to-face.

Call them out in front of the whole team.

Don’t say anything and let them get the accolades.

Let it happen, but tell all your other coworkers the truth.

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Your direct report keeps missing their deadlines; how do you approach them about it?

You wait for their mid-year review to address it.

You stress the importance of timeliness and ask how you can be supportive.

You mention it in a team standup after a project is delayed.

You don’t mention it and hope they’ll figure it out.

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You’re struggling with a task at work—how do you ask your boss for help?

“Ugh, I have too much on my plate right now!”

“I can’t get the hang of the new procedure, can we review it again?”

Tell them “It’s going great!”—you don’t want to look incompetent.

You ask for help but secretly let them complete it for you.

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Your parent criticizes your job and/or life choices—what do you say to them?

“It’s none of your business, stay out of it.”

“You’re probably right. I guess I could have done things differently.”

“I respect your opinion but I stand by the choices I’ve made.”

“Gee, I wonder why I turned out like this!”

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Your uncle always brings up divisive topics and causes drama at family parties. How do you approach him about the situation?

Tell him privately that certain topics should be off-limits.

You don’t invite him to the next gathering.

You just stay out of it.

You angrily confront him in front of everyone.

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If your sibling keeps canceling plans with you, what do you say to them?

“No worries, next time!”

“Why do I bother? You clearly don’t care about our relationship.”

“It’s fine, I have better things to do anyways.”

“When you cancel plans like this, it makes me feel unimportant.”

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You want your partner to be more adventurous in the bedroom—how do you communicate your desire?

Tell them you love your sex life, but have some ideas to spice things up.

You don’t—it’s too awkward to talk about.

Handcuff them to the bed and take matters into your own hands.

Leave your laptop open to a sex toy website for them to “accidentally” see.

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How do you tell your roommate you want them to help out more around the apartment?

Hold a house meeting to outline your expectations.

You let the chores pile up to see if they notice.

Tell them you’re sick of cleaning up after them.

Leave sticky notes suggesting someone hasn’t been pulling their weight.

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How do you express your hurt over not being invited by a close friend to a gathering?

You text them “Hey, I’m bummed I wasn’t invited. Is something up or am I overthinking?”

You text them “Heard about your little party, not sure what I did wrong…”

You keep it bottled up inside.

You reply to their IG Story “Looks like fun…”

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How do you tell a friend that you think they drink too much?

“Do you really need one for the road?”

I avoid saying anything that might make them uncomfortable

“You need help dude, you’re an alcoholic.”

“I feel worried about your drinking habits, is this something you'd be open to talking about?"

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How do you tell an acquaintance you want to become better friends?

Text them, “Hey! I feel like we really clicked after chatting last week, I’d love to grab dinner soon :)”

You text them every day, even when they don’t respond.

You just ghost them and see what happens.

You get a mutual friend to talk you up in front of them.

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You’re out to dinner and they got your order wrong—what do you say to the server?

“I think there was a mixup—this isn’t what I ordered.”

“Can I speak to the manager, please?”

“Thank you, this looks great!”

“What kind of service is this? You can forget about a tip.”

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Your neighbors are keeping you up at all hours of the night blasting music. How do you get them to stop?

Bang on their door and demand they keep it down.

Call the cops and file a noise complaint.

Calmly knock on their door in the morning and express your concern.

Put in your earplugs and try to sleep through it.

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You think you deserve a raise—how do you ask for one?

You meet with your manager to discuss clear examples of your value to the company.

You keep quietly working hard—it’s so awkward talking about money.

Threaten to quit if you don’t get more money.

Tell your manager about the great offers you definitely have from other companies.

Your results: Passive

You may be a passive communicator and like to take a backseat to others or let them drive the conversation. You tend not to speak up in a conflict or avoid conflict altogether, even when you know you're in the right. By now, you're probably pretty used to your manager telling you to be more vocal.

That said, your communication style isn't set in stone. You may even have different styles in different situations. No matter how you communicate, there is always room to learn new strategies for more effective communication.

If you're concerned about your results, it might help to learn more about how communication styles can impact you:

Improve Your Communication
Passivity and Social Anxiety
Avoidance Coping and Stress
How to Use Assertive Communication

If you feel like your communication style is negatively affecting your relationships, you may consider working with a therapist to examine your behavior. It's not easy, but you can absolutely learn to improve your communication skills and become the assertive person you want to be.

Your results: Passive-Aggressive

You may be a passive-aggressive communicator. You like to keep people guessing, and your sarcasm game is on point. You're no stranger to hiding your true thoughts from others, even if it means alienating those closest to you from time to time.

That said, your communication style isn't set in stone. You may even have different styles in different situations. No matter how you communicate, there is always room to learn new strategies for more effective communication.

If you're concerned about your results, it might help to learn more about how communication styles can impact you:

Improve Your Communication
How to Stop Being Passive-Aggressive
Know the Signs of Manipulation
How to Use Assertive Communication

If you feel like your communication style is negatively affecting your relationships, you may consider working with a therapist to examine your behavior. It's not easy, but you can absolutely learn to improve your communication skills and become the assertive person you want to be.

Your results: Assertive

You may be an assertive communicator. You like to be clear about your needs in any situation, even if it might lead to conflict or uncomfortable conversations. That said, you know how to stay calm and keep things respectful. It's important to you to make your voice heard, but never at the expense of listening to others.

Of course, your communication style isn't set in stone. You may even have different styles in different situations. No matter how you communicate, there is always room to learn new strategies for more effective communication.

Even if you're satisfied with your results, it might help to learn more about how communication styles can impact you:

Improve Your Communication
Assertiveness in Relationships
How to Use Feeling Statements
How to Improve Your Body Language

Your results: Aggressive

You may be an aggressive communicator. You're into power moves and tend to dominate the conversation. You aren't afraid to tell it like it is or express how you really feel...even if it means stepping on toes and making others a bit uncomfortable once in a while. When you're in an argument, you're playing to win.

That said, your communication style isn't set in stone. You may even have different styles in different situations. No matter how you communicate, there is always room to learn new strategies for more effective communication.

If you're concerned about your results, it might help to learn more about how communication styles can impact you:

Improve Your Communication
How to Manage Your Aggressiveness
The Stress of Poor Communication
How to Use Assertive Communication

If you feel like your communication style is negatively affecting your relationships, you may consider working with a therapist to examine your behavior. It's not easy, but you can absolutely learn to improve your communication skills and become the assertive person you want to be.