How is your shadow self sabotaging you?
Do you ever feel there's two sides to you, one that's clear and knows what to do and another that sabotages your momentum?
You've discovered the darker side of you, the side most of us ignore, the shadow self.
Discover your own personal shadow and allow yourself to step further into your true power.
You've discovered the darker side of you, the side most of us ignore, the shadow self.
Discover your own personal shadow and allow yourself to step further into your true power.
Which of these scenarios would make you the most uncomfortable?
Making a speech in front of a large crowd
A stranger starting a conversation with you on a train
Your friends all stop talking when you walk in the room
A work spa day and your colleagues seeing you in a swimsuit
The main reason you don't reach your goals is:
Giving up because it's too hard
Silly reasons that don't make much sense
Other people letting me down
Your confidence deserts you
When you're upset you're most likely to:
Keep it to yourself and fret
Try to put things into perspective
Tell yourself to get a grip
Comfort eat or binge drink
You most admire people who:
Seem naturally slim and healthy
Speak their mind
Feel comfortable in their own skin
Are in a great relationship
People would be surprised at how much time you spend:
Fantasizing about a different life
Giving yourself a hard time
Feeling like an outsider
Thinking about how you look
You feel at your best when you've:
Detoxed and lost weight
Met someone you really connected to
Achieved something that was challenging
Acted with grace and kindness
You are offered your dream job, but it means moving to a new city. Your default reaction is to:
Feel really excited, then terrified
Wonder if they offered it to the right person
Wonder if your partner would move too
Think of it as a new start
At school you were known for:
Being everyones friend
Always on or wanting to be on a diet
Never getting in trouble
Being a queen bee
You're most likely to skip a big party because you've:
Worried about all the ways it could go wrong
Convinced yourself that you won't fit in
Felt overwhelmed by the thought of talking to tons of people
Decided you look horrible in all you clothes
You feel like an imposter when you're
Told how kind you are
Speaking to someone you need to impress
Telling your Dr. about your lifestyle habits
Talking in a meeting or in front of a crowd
Your shadow self sabotages your Bravery
Your shadow self looks for ways to keep you safe and in your comfort zone. It attempts to sabotage anything that seems risky, new, or unknown. Your shadow self's weapon of choice is self sabotage.
Your shadow self can trick you into victim mode, it's a way to make you feel small, passive and helpless because your shadow self feels safest the smaller you are.
If the shadow self catches the smallest wiff that you're about to embark on something big, it will create a list of worst case scenarios to keep you from jumping.
In the past you may of needed your shadow to have your back through rough times, or needed her to guide you through a threatening situation. But when the shadow self takes up permanent residency it can stir this way of thinking when its more harmful than good.
If your shadow self could talk it would be in a voice of a small scared child. The key is to put your arm around her and tell her "everything is going to be okay." You're an adult and you got this.
Your shadow self can trick you into victim mode, it's a way to make you feel small, passive and helpless because your shadow self feels safest the smaller you are.
If the shadow self catches the smallest wiff that you're about to embark on something big, it will create a list of worst case scenarios to keep you from jumping.
In the past you may of needed your shadow to have your back through rough times, or needed her to guide you through a threatening situation. But when the shadow self takes up permanent residency it can stir this way of thinking when its more harmful than good.
If your shadow self could talk it would be in a voice of a small scared child. The key is to put your arm around her and tell her "everything is going to be okay." You're an adult and you got this.
Your shadow self sabotages your Authenticity
Your shadow self is a die hard people pleaser, she does what she has to do to avoid disapproval, conflict and rejection. You are a gifted empathizer, you easily put yourself in others shoes. This is a strength but can easily slip into a weakness when you tell people what they want to hear instead of what you really think.
Your shadow self makes it too easy to put yourself last, because keeping others happy becomes the primary focus over your wellbeing. Its the perfect recipe for feeling used.
Our shadow self thinks its doing us a solid. In the past people pleasing may have won you approval or saved you from perceived pain but now a days people pleasing makes it difficult to feel at home in our own skin.
How many people really know the real you? Heck do you know the real you?
Finding your beautiful voice starts with reconnecting with who you are and what you believe. Sometimes just a moment of pause and checking in can start the ball rolling. "How do I feel about this?" "What are my thoughts about this without considering what others think?"
Your shadow self makes it too easy to put yourself last, because keeping others happy becomes the primary focus over your wellbeing. Its the perfect recipe for feeling used.
Our shadow self thinks its doing us a solid. In the past people pleasing may have won you approval or saved you from perceived pain but now a days people pleasing makes it difficult to feel at home in our own skin.
How many people really know the real you? Heck do you know the real you?
Finding your beautiful voice starts with reconnecting with who you are and what you believe. Sometimes just a moment of pause and checking in can start the ball rolling. "How do I feel about this?" "What are my thoughts about this without considering what others think?"
Your shadow self sabotages your compassion.
Your shadow self is a master at criticizing others.
Your come across as a kind hearted and open minded, but behind the curtain your shadow self in hyper critical, judging people on behavior, life choices even appearance.
You judge yourself when the shadow self appears and wish you wouldn't do it.
The origin of your shadow self comes from your relationship with yourself. You lack self compassion and because your inner critic has been so strong it's become your default way of thinking. This way of thinking is the biggest hurdle to overcome, it keeps you from deepening connection with others and from making new connections.
Remember our shadow self thinks it's protecting us. In the past your shadow self may have helped you reach a new level or kept you from being taken advantage of, but today it dampens your mood, increases anxiety levels and decreases joy.
Compassion is the gateway to soothing your shadow self into submission. Start with asking yourself this question, " What's the sweetest thing I do for myself today?" Set an intention to be the best friend yourself has ever had. Someone unconditional, loving and supportive.
Your come across as a kind hearted and open minded, but behind the curtain your shadow self in hyper critical, judging people on behavior, life choices even appearance.
You judge yourself when the shadow self appears and wish you wouldn't do it.
The origin of your shadow self comes from your relationship with yourself. You lack self compassion and because your inner critic has been so strong it's become your default way of thinking. This way of thinking is the biggest hurdle to overcome, it keeps you from deepening connection with others and from making new connections.
Remember our shadow self thinks it's protecting us. In the past your shadow self may have helped you reach a new level or kept you from being taken advantage of, but today it dampens your mood, increases anxiety levels and decreases joy.
Compassion is the gateway to soothing your shadow self into submission. Start with asking yourself this question, " What's the sweetest thing I do for myself today?" Set an intention to be the best friend yourself has ever had. Someone unconditional, loving and supportive.
Your shadow self sabotages your personal growth
You shadow self tries hard to make you believe life is meant to be easy, and if you have to work hard then its not meant for you.
Anything that has you giving up immediate pleasure for long term goals awakens the beast within.
Your shadow self has no faith in your long term abilities to handle discomfort or emotional set backs. So it will nag you towards any distraction it conjures up. TV, social media, cleaning the house, food.
It also entices you to seek the quick fix, like you have some difficult emotions and instead of sitting with them the shadow self has you shopping online for that unneeded makeup mirror.
In the past your shadow self learned to act the way she does to protect you from unwanted emotions. But today she's wrecking all kinds of havoc on your life vision.
Our shadow self is one with us so embracing her is key. To get that ball rolling you could set an intention that even if the going gets rough you will not discount moving forward. There will be times that moving forward is worth doing anyway.
It begins with making tiny changes that increase your confidence. Ask yourself this "Will doing this move me closer to the highest vision for my life or farther away?"
Anything that has you giving up immediate pleasure for long term goals awakens the beast within.
Your shadow self has no faith in your long term abilities to handle discomfort or emotional set backs. So it will nag you towards any distraction it conjures up. TV, social media, cleaning the house, food.
It also entices you to seek the quick fix, like you have some difficult emotions and instead of sitting with them the shadow self has you shopping online for that unneeded makeup mirror.
In the past your shadow self learned to act the way she does to protect you from unwanted emotions. But today she's wrecking all kinds of havoc on your life vision.
Our shadow self is one with us so embracing her is key. To get that ball rolling you could set an intention that even if the going gets rough you will not discount moving forward. There will be times that moving forward is worth doing anyway.
It begins with making tiny changes that increase your confidence. Ask yourself this "Will doing this move me closer to the highest vision for my life or farther away?"