My Masculine-Feminine Dynamics

What kind of partner are you?

What kind of partners have you attracted into your life?

Knowing the four energies within yourself and how they're doing the tango with one another will reveal so much about yourself and all your relationships!

Take this short fun quiz to find out where you stand with your Phalva, your inner Masculine-Feminine energy dynamics!

Answer each question according to intensity:
1: Not at all - (0)
2: Slightly true - (25%)
3: Half true - (50%)
4: Mostly true - (75%)
5: Yup, that's me - (100%)

*Note: For questions asking about your partner, if you currently don't have one, simply think of your most recent partner(s).

I find it challenging to trust people.

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I worry others don’t like me.

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I can be still and do nothing for long periods if I so choose to.

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Generally, people feel they can trust me easily.

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I worry my partner doesn’t love me as much as I love him/her.

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I am uncomfortable depending on people.

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I identify as a spiritual person.

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I feel discomfort when people express their emotions around or to me.

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Under pressure, I can make beneficial decisions.

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When things go wrong, my world crumbles and I feel high anxiety.

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I am a reliable character and people around me feel they can trust my word.

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I feel compassionate when others are suffering or when they express their vulnerabilities.

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I harbor a lot of anger for wrong that’s been done to me in my life but haven't expressed this anger much.

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I am a safe place for others to open up and be vulnerable.

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Deep down I’m afraid of being left high and dry by my friends and/or lover.

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I’m curious and ask questions to find answers before drawing conclusions.

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I can easily numb my emotions.

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I feel confident making mistakes and don’t beat myself up over them.

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In the past I’ve experienced bouts of rage that have surprised/shocked myself and am afraid of losing control again.

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I tend to believe the world is a big playground and love playing in it.

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I’m extremely independent and don't need much from others.

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I can take risks–the unknown is a place I enjoy going to.

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I find it difficult to communicate my needs.

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When people get “too” close to me, I somehow push them away or sabotage the relationship, or hurt them to create distance.

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I tend to spend a lot of time working and have little energy left for other activities.

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I’ve received feedback from others that I am charismatic and exude an energy of leadership.

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I feel I need to control things for them to go my way, which is the best way.

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I laugh easily, loudly, and unapologetically.

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I struggle to commit to one relationship/place/activity.

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I’m generous and find it easy to give where I feel I can.

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When an issue arises between myself and my loved one, I will not let it go and need to communicate it out until it’s resolved.

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I have a close relationship with nature and appreciate her beauty down to intricate details.

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I am a deeply inspired and creative individual.

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It’s difficult for me to be vulnerable with others.

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I don’t mind asking for and receiving help.

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I get vulnerable easily when I'm attracted to someone and this can cause them to distance themselves.

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I can see the potential in others and invest in it if I can.

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I enjoy receiving compliments.

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I can see through a person's self-doubt and see the best in them.

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I find solace in going into a cave on my own when I'm hurt, and in not communicating with anyone even if it hurts them.

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Generally speaking, my father wasn’t really there for my mother as she needed.

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I can forgive and forget easily.

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I can easily feel other people’s emotions, even as though they’re my own.

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I find that I have the tendency to easily criticize or judge others.

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Generally speaking, my mother was emotionally unhappy in her relationship with my father

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I know how to make and manage money well.

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I love pleasuring my partner in bed no matter how much time and energy it might take.

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I take up space with confidence.

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Dark Masculine

{result #1 percent} Living from the energy of the Dark Masculine, which stands for your relationship with your mind, pain and death.

Don’t be swayed by thinking: a. this energy is “bad”, b. that your gender is male.

Let’s allow Dark Masculine to speak for itself first:

- I wanna take a baseball bat and smash a window or two.

- I wanna run or ride my bike till I feel pain and can’t anymore.

- I wanna get on a rooftop and yell out “everyone is an a**hole!”

- I wanna hurt myself so I can feel something.

Sound like you? Your greatest place of healing and solace is the Divine Feminine. So you probably attract spiritual, emotionally in-tune partners into your life. It would likely do you and your life a solid deal of good to integrate (i.e. befriend as a part of your own self) this Divine Feminine energy.

So how does the person who represents Divine Feminine (your attraction point) show up in relationship with you?

I bring joy and life into a house and turn it into a home.
I love to give nourishment of any kind—that’s love, food, energy, a listening ear, etc. But only naturally. I don’t need to give it. I just exude it.
I bring color, vibrancy and what’s been called a “feminine touch” to every living space.
My chest and lap become places of refuge and rest.
I inspire you to have faith and keep persisting on your path.
The heart of the home, the kitchen, is a place I enjoy spending time in—hosting others comes to me naturally.
I’m excellent at receiving compliments, gifts, money, and pleasure.
I dance, sing, and laugh unapologetically.
When I do anything, I add my own creative touch and it tends to surprise people.
I smile a lot and you know it’s from a happy heart. This soothes your soul.
I tend to easily trigger the Dark Masculine.

Does this ring more true than not? Your healing, dear Dark Masculine, lies in embracing a spiritual practice. An individual that stands outside of yourself may inspire you, bring immense solace to you and remedy your wounds temporarily, but it isn't until you reconcile with what s/he represents, that you'll find lasting solace and peace.

Remember that all four energies exist in you! So here are your other results:

{result #4 percent} Divine Feminine: Spirituality, Purpose, Faith

{result #2 percent} Dark Feminine: Love, Romance, Sex
{result #3 percent} Divine Masculine: Body, Food, Money

If the number corresponding with one quadrant is very low, this simply means you need to integrate and accept what that quadrant represents, in your own inner world. For example, if you scored lowest on Divine Feminine, that means your greatest need right now is the unknown realm of spirituality and mysticism.

Take the in-depth quiz now and access:

How you show up in relationships.
A full description of how each of all of the four quadrants show up. Knowing your partner’s trauma is a love language, so that includes your partner's full description too!
Details of where each of their healing lies.
A Masterclass that includes:

Initiation of healing your relationship with the Masculine and/or Feminine
Clarity on why you and your partner show up in relationships the way you do
Becoming better equipped for all your present and future relationships
Understanding of all the people in your life
Meeting your Inner Child
A worksheet to follow

Dark Feminine

{result #2 percent} Living from the energy of the Dark Feminine, which stands for your relationship with love, romance and sex.

Don’t be swayed by this in thinking: a. it’s a “bad” thing, b. that your gender is female.

Let’s allow Dark Feminine to speak for itself first:

- I’m in my head, fearful, and wanna scream at my partner “for no apparent reason”.

- I don’t wanna hurt my partner, but I somehow manage to!

- I wanna control everything s/he does so the outcome is exactly as I want it to be because s/he doesn’t know how to do anything right.

- I feel like no one has had any compassion for me...

Sound like you? Your greatest place of healing is the Divine Masculine. it's likely that you attract partners who can make decisions well, stick to them, and who stay calm under pressure. It would likely do you and your life a solid deal of good to integrate (i.e. befriend as a part of your own self) the Divine Masculine.

So how does the person who represents Divine Masculine (your attraction point) show up in relationship with you?

When you’re panicking or getting into a fit of some sort, I remain calm, observing from a bird’s-eye point of view.
I encourage you to be your best because I see the best in you and care that you embody it. You got this, let’s go go go!
I can hold space for your fears, your insecurities and your anguish. I will encourage and support you like a mountain. You can count on me.
At the same time, if you go into that dark place more often than is beneficial for yourself and/or for our relationship, I’ll remind you and try to nudge you back out of your head.
I believe in you and love investing what I can of myself (time, money, energy) in your intangible potential, because I believe in myself enough to know I can help you turn it into something tangible—that is, after all, my expertise.
I tend to easily trigger the Dark Feminine.

Is the above what you long for?

Your healing likely lies in embracing a journey of learning how to make money through your heart-centered business, dear Divine Feminine. An individual that stands outside of yourself may seem to promise security, safety and validation temporarily, but it isn't until you reconcile with what s/he represents that you'll find lasting security.

Remember that all four energies exist in you! So here are your other results:

{result #3 percent} Divine Masculine: Body, Food, Money

{result #1 percent} Dark Masculine: Mind, Pain, Death
{result #4 percent} Divine Feminine: Spirituality, Purpose, Faith

If the number corresponding with one quadrant is very low, this simply means you need to integrate and accept what that quadrant represents, in your own inner world. For example, if you scored lowest on Divine Masculine, that means your greatest need right now is to ground, heal, feel safe in your body, and find a means for security and probably financial freedom.

Take the in-depth quiz now and access:

How you show up in relationships.
A full description of how each of all of the four quadrants show up. Knowing your partner’s trauma is a love language, so that includes your partner's full description too!
Details of where each of their healing lies.
A Masterclass that includes:

Initiation of healing your relationship with the Masculine and/or Feminine
Clarity on why you and your partner show up in relationships the way you do
Becoming better equipped for all your present and future relationships
Understanding of all the people in your life
Meeting your Inner Child
A worksheet to follow

Divine Masculine

{result #3 percent} Living from the energy of the Divine Masculine, which stands for your relationship with your body, food and money.

Don’t be swayed by this in thinking: a. I’m “better than others”, b. that your gender is male.

Let’s allow Divine Masculine to speak for itself first:

- I’d like to take my partner's hand and show them a new way of looking at the world that will inspire them into action.

- I’d like to show my partner a fresh perspective when they're stuck, get them out of their head, and into action.

- I’d like to lavish my partner in money and pleasure.

Sound like you? It's likely that you attract partners who are driven by drama, who cling to you, and whom you end up spending more money on than you'd prefer. It would likely do you and your life a solid deal of good to integrate (i.e. befriend as a part of your own self) the Dark Feminine.

So how does the person who represents Dark Feminine (your attaction point) show up in relationship with you?

I watch your every move because deep down I don’t believe you can do anything right (aka my way, the best way). And as a result I come off as controlling.
I end up mothering you, rather, smothering you. I’ll even become over-anxious or worried about small things to slowly get you to feel addicted to my nurturing, which you don’t really need, but I need you to need me, so it all works out.
I get sick a lot and when I see you don’t pay any attention, it hurts and angers me inside. I sacrifice my need for this attention but it’ll combust one day. The problem is that neither of us will know where it’s coming from until we fight for hours or days and it slowly dawns on us both, then we might have sex, which will please me greatly.
But the root problem won’t be solved, and we might start fighting again even as soon as lovemaking is over.
I raise my voice and might look haggard while doing so, like a fire-breathing dragoness. I just feel so unheard.
No matter what you do or how much you try, it will go unseen by me or won’t be enough in the long-run. Therefore I tend to come off as perpetually complaining.
I trigger the hell out of the Dark Masculine, and can easily be triggered by the Divine Masculine and Feminine because they arouse my jealousy.

Does this ring more true about your partner than not?

Your healing lies in coming into compassion for the Dark Feminine. This individual may bring apparent vivacity, livelihood and passionate sex into your life, but it isn't until you reconcile with what s/he represents that you'll find all this permanently. It will probably benefit you to start giving out of the goodness of your heart without sexualizing, patronizing or demonizing this energy within yourself, as well as the people that represent it most, including, most likely, your own mother.

Remember that all four energies exist in you! So here are your other results:

{result #2 percent} Dark Feminine: Love, Romance, Sex
{result #1 percent} Dark Masculine: Mind, Pain, Death
{result #4 percent} Divine Feminine: Spirituality, Purpose, Faith

If the number corresponding with one quadrant is very low, this simply means you need to integrate and accept what that quadrant represents, in your own inner world. For example, if you scored lowest on Dark Feminine, that means your greatest need right now is to transmute erotic energy into your mission and purpose in life, which is inseparable from supporting the feminine in healing into financial independence.

Take the in-depth quiz now and access:

How you show up in relationships.
A full description of how each of all of the four quadrants show up. Knowing your partner’s trauma is a love language, so that includes your partner's full description too!
Details of where each of their healing lies.
A Masterclass that includes:

Initiation of healing your relationship with the Masculine and/or Feminine
Clarity on why you and your partner show up in relationships the way you do
Becoming better equipped for all your present and future relationships
Understanding of all the people in your life
Meeting your Inner Child
A worksheet to follow

Divine Feminine

{result #4 percent} Living from the energy of the Divine Feminine, which stands for your relationship with spirituality, the unknown, purpose, and faith.

Don’t be swayed by this in thinking: a. You’re some guru b. that your gender is female.

Let’s allow Divine Feminine to speak for itself first:

I will kiss others' pain away with my soul-soothing nourishment of stories and art.
I will inspire others in visions filled with colourful imagery, the sound of water dripping in the distance, and a feeling of being alive.
My touch can heal the deepest wounds and nurture the soul.

Sound like you?

It's likely that you attract partners who are adventurous, are risk-takers and who live on the edge. These individuals have a dark side to them that probably attracts you intensely. It would likely do you and your life a solid deal of good to integrate (i.e. befriend as a part of your own self) the Dark Masculine.

So how does the person who represents the Dark Masculine (your attraction point) show up in relationship with you?

I won’t communicate and will choose to go into a cave, refusing to come out. Leave me the hell alone, I can barely even process my own feelings, let alone yours, b****!
My anger remains mostly unexpressed. I’ve been expected to be a perfect gentleman/woman all my life, so I prefer to throw myself into some sort of physical activity so that I wouldn’t have to confront you. After all, deep down, I’m a bit afraid of how you’ll react, and if it reminds me of my mom, god have mercy on you, you’re officially shut out for good.
Pleasuring you in bed is hard enough as it is… I don’t wanna talk about it!
I think you’re great and I have a deep desire to unite with you, but I just don’t believe in you. It turns out you’re too… human. I need something a lot more… like that image of perfection in my head.
You scare the bejeezuz out of me sometimes and I have no idea how to deal with that.
I don’t trust you. Every time it comes down to trust, I’m gonna make sure not to, and even though it hurts you and you just want a chance or two from me, like I said before, I just don’t believe in you and can’t bring myself to trust you.
You make me feel, and that scares me because numbing my feelings or just living in a numbed state is my norm. So I’ll find a way to sabotage all this… this feeling ‘n’ sh*t.
Stop trying to help me. I don’t need, want or take help from anyone, let alone from your esoteric, inexplicable ways of healing.
Fine, I’ll be honest, I don’t feel like I’m enough for all that you are and need, so giving up is the next best option. Now f*** off before I hurt myself in a fit of rage.
I push you to do better so it would make me look better and you’re no fool, so we’re gonna get into a fight about it and… bla bla bla, I’ve been gracious enough with all this communicating, I’m done. This was too much. Ba-bye now.

Does this ring more true about your partner than not? Your healing lies in coming into compassion for the Dark Masculine, but not enabling it! This individual may bring apparent adventure, mystery and hot sex into your life but it isn't until you reconcile with what s/he represents that you'll find all this permanently.

It will probably benefit you to start traveling alone and spend a lot of time on your own doing challenging things without help and even getting deceived a few times until you learn to be more vigilant, realistic and less nice. So long as you're naive about the darkness in others, you're enabling this energy to take from you until you feel depleted, sad and confused!

Remember that all four energies exist in you! So here are your other results:

{result #1 percent} Dark Masculine: Mind, Pain, Death
{result #2 percent} Dark Feminine: Love, Romance, Sex
{result #3 percent} Divine Masculine: Body, Food, Money

If the number corresponding with one of the quadrants is very low, this simply means you need to integrate and accept what that quadrant represents, in your own inner world. For example, if you scored lowest on Dark Masculine, that means your greatest need right now is to heal your inner child, and start showing up as more of a grounded, wiser adult in the outer world.

Take the in-depth quiz now and access:

How you show up in relationships.
A full description of how each of all of the four quadrants show up. Knowing your partner’s trauma is a love language, so that includes your partner's full description too!
Details of where each of their healing lies.
A Masterclass that includes:

Initiation of healing your relationship with the Masculine and/or Feminine
Clarity on why you and your partner show up in relationships the way you do
Becoming better equipped for all your present and future relationships
Understanding of all the people in your life
Meeting your Inner Child
A worksheet to follow