How do you feel when someone close to you starts to spend less time with you and more time with someone else?
You're going through a rough patch. Do you reach out to someone for support?
How comfortable are you with being emotionally vulnerable?
Your partner or close friend wants to spend time alone. How do you react?
How do you deal with conflicts in relationships?
Do you trust other people?
How do you feel about emotional closeness?
A friend or partner expresses their needs in the relationship with you. How do you react?
When you're in a relationship, do you worry about abandonment?
Your partner wants to be physically close to you regularly. How do you feel about that?
What was your relationship like with your parents or caregivers in early childhood?
What do you usually do when someone close to you gets upset or emotional?
Your best friend needs a place to stay. How do you feel about sharing your space?
What's your general experience with making friends?
How do you feel when a friendship or romantic relationship ends?
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Your Result: Avoidant Attachment
Not all of us get our needs met by our parents during those early years. If you fall into that category, you’re not alone. One study of 14,000 U.S. children born in 2001 found that about 40% did not form secure attachments and lacked strong emotional bonds with their parents.
You may struggle with commitment, but your attachment style doesn't have to define your relationships. You can learn tools to form healthier attachments in adulthood, even if you didn't have an ideal relationship with caregivers during childhood.
If you're concerned about your results, it might help to learn more about how attachment styles can impact you:
- Avoidance Coping and Stress
- How a Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style Can Affect Your Life
- Signs of Dismissive Avoidant Attachment
If you feel like your attachment style is negatively affecting your romantic relationships, you may consider working with a therapist to unpack your childhood attachment and learn new patterns. By understanding how you learned certain behaviors and patterns, it's possible to learn something different and form new ones.
Your Result: Disorganized Attachment
Not all of us get our needs met by our parents during those early years. If you fall into that category, you’re not alone. One study of 14,000 U.S. children born in 2001 found that about 40% did not form secure attachments and lacked strong emotional bonds with their parents.
Disorganized attachment means that you may swing back and forth between extremes at different times. That said our attachment style doesn't have to define your relationships. You can learn tools to form healthier attachments in adulthood, even if you didn't have an ideal relationship with caregivers during childhood.
If you're concerned about your results, it might help to learn more about how attachment styles can impact you:
- Coping With an Insecure Attachment Style
- Disorganized Attachment in Relationships
- Attachment Anxiety
If you feel like your attachment style is negatively affecting your romantic relationships, you may consider working with a therapist to unpack your childhood attachment and learn new patterns. By understanding how you learned certain behaviors and patterns, it's possible to learn something different and form new ones.
Your Result: Anxious/Ambivalent Attachment
Not all of us get our needs met by our parents during those early years. If you fall into that category, you’re not alone. One study of 14,000 U.S. children born in 2001 found that about 40% did not form secure attachments and lacked strong emotional bonds with their parents.
You may be wary of getting close to others, and fear that you will lose those close to you. That said, your attachment style doesn't have to define your relationships. You can learn tools to form healthier attachments in adulthood, even if you didn't have an ideal relationship with caregivers during childhood.
If you're concerned about your results, it might help to learn more about how attachment styles can impact you:
If you feel like your attachment style is negatively affecting your romantic relationships, you may consider working with a therapist to unpack your childhood attachment and learn new patterns. By understanding how you learned certain behaviors and patterns, it's possible to learn something different and form new ones.
Your Result: Secure Attachment
You tend to feel secure in your relationships, and maintain healthy and appropriate levels of communication. That said, even if you feel you had an ideal relationship with caregivers during childhood, your attachment style doesn't always define your present relationships. It's important to continue to learn and nurture the tools that can help you form healthy attachments in adulthood.
Even if you're happy with your results, you may want to know more about the other attachment styles, especially if you are looking for insight into someone you care about. These resources can help:
- Coping With an Insecure Attachment Style
- How a Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style Can Affect Your Life
- Anxious Ambivalent Attachment: An Overview
If you or your partner's attachment style is negatively affecting your romantic relationship, you may consider working with a therapist to unpack your childhood attachment and learn new patterns. By understanding how you learned certain behaviors and patterns, it's possible to learn something different and form new ones.